How to Be a Lady

Just what is it that makes a lady?

There's more to being a lady than simply using the proper etiquette or manners; following the sort of blueprints that the world lays out for women.
 Once I decided to google the subject, and one thing the article said really made me shake my head in surprise. Did you know a lady isn't supposed to wear white heels?
  Black heels, yes. Nude heels, absolutely. White, never!
The reason? They didn't give one. But if you see a pretty young woman with modest attire, a friendly smile and polite attitude walking down the street, and you happen to look at her feet, and you happen to take note of the fact that she is wearing white pumps, don't be fooled! She isn't a lady.
 Fiddlesticks!
Here is what makes a real lady:

Modesty.
 Now I think every single human being has a different idea of what modesty is, and no one will truly agree on what is considered proper dress. We could argue about the proper length of hemlines, or sleeves, but I think we all have the same general idea.
 A lady does not flaunt her body.
Her chest should be decently covered (again, we could argue the exact measurement), and the same goes for her... *ahem* rear end, as well as her legs. (within in reason)
 But there's more to modesty than how a woman dresses, which brings me to the second ingredient.

Attitude.
 A woman can be covered from head to toe, swathed in layers of material until only her face is showing, but still be immodest through her actions.
 Throwing herself at the boys, always doing her best to remain the center of the group, whether it's for the young men's attentions or anyone willing to cater to her vanity.
 Now remember, laughing and talking with the boys is not throwing yourself their way; it's pretty obvious when a girl is behaving in an inappropriate fashion.
 A lady also treats her fellow man with respect, speaking in a friendly tone, doing her best to show others around her that they matter, and behaving in a gentle, sweet manner.
 Constant complaining in a man OR woman also turns people off; no one wants to be with a Johnny Raincloud, or Droopy Susie.
 A positive attitude, (a REAL positive attitude) respectful actions and a genuinely sweet smile always shows a true lady and a true sister in Christ.

Speech.
 I know I just said earlier that etiquette isn't what makes a lady, but hear me out.
A woman can use the proper pronouns and adjectives to lash out the most cruelest, dirtiest remarks.
 Maybe she says "May I?" and "Pardon Me" but she also speaks in a degrading way about her family, fellow workers and friends, and people no longer want to listen to what she has to say.
 A lady is also careful about her language.
There's the obvious swear words of our society that she avoids, but what about 'harsh' words?
 A fellow blogger friend once wrote an article on the subject and I highly recommend reading it.

Kindness.
 The issues of the heart shows a lady and a Christian.
She shines our Savior's light with her kindness and caring heart, giving herself everyday for the good of others.
 She loves with a true love.

I want to assure you all:
 This is a reminder, not an accusation.
Because I know we all fall into these traps often. It's all that makes us human.
 So I don't want you to read this and leave with a sad, depressed heart because you're thinking that you're 'not a lady'.

Remember, you're the daughter of a King. You're a princess, you're beautiful and you're loved. 

                                                                                                              Have a lovely day,